My Love

Today during my morning run I found myself contemplating my 25 year marriage and what accounts for our continued growth and relational health.  This is not to say we are perfect, far from it.  But we have always appreciated the work we put into our relationship and the return on our efforts over the years.  As a marital therapist I am constantly a witness of unhealthy relationships, or habits that to not lead to strong relationships.  From time to time I use these experiences to evaluate my own contributions and relational health.

This morning I was analyzing the love that I have for Heather, and the meaning of the word "love".  I do love my wife.  But the love I am referring to is not one of looks, attitude or desire.  It does not derive from how she serves me, or keeps our home.  It is not one of self need or wants.  The only word that I could effective use to describe it at this point is a love of "possession".  Now before you start jumping to conclusions and accusing me of seeing my wife as a "possession", let me explain.  

My wife is mine, and I am hers.  She is a part of me, not unlike my body.  I would no more disowner her or separate myself from her as I could my arm or leg.  There are many parts of my body I do not like, but I accept them and find peace in that they make me who I am.  My wife is a part of me and I love that part of me.  My love is that of comfort, safety, and a satisfaction of knowing that she is mine.   I love her with commitment, a covenant, and the complete dedication I would give my own body.

This is also the love Christ has for us.  We have been bought with a price.  We are no longer our own, but now His.  His love is one paid for on the cross, not based on performance or works, but in complete sacrifice and commitment by those who have accepted Him as Lord.  His love is one of possession, true to His commitment and love nature.  And we can find peace in this never changing love.  Are you looking for love?

John 15:10-This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.

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