In marriage perception is often reality and reality often is perception. I find couples in conflict many times because they are trying to change their spouse or their spouse’s perception of a specific topic or event. The problem is that your spouse is different than you and changing them is about as likely as an Oklahoma snow in July. A better use of your time is recognizing your spouse’s perception and trying to understand it and appreciate it. This isn’t the same as agreeing with them or saying they are right (which I know is worse than water torture) and you are wrong. Most issues can be resolved through just appreciating the other and their point of view.

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1. Radhika wrote:
it's funny, & I get the evolving realsim thing you're going for here, but honestly this is just depressing to me. if you're constantly gunning for alone-time, don't like the same activities, don't feel compelled to be physically affectionate, & don't feel compelled to be monogamous why be married at all? I'm not trying to be snarky; this is a legitimate question: the perspective presented in this chart is a fairly common one, I think, but it doesn't depict any marriage I'd want to be in. & not because I'm some starry-eyed teenager.

Mon, August 6, 2012 @ 11:17 AM

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