Real

Emotions are meant to be expressed.  When we hold back our emotions, I believe we hold back a part of ourselves that can result in less confidence, low self-esteem and limited intimacy in our relationships.  I also believe there is a time, place, and way to express our emotions.  Eph. 4:26 says, "Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,".  But holding back our emotions only holds back our ability to be authentic, and therefore confident in who we are, and who God wants us to be.,

One year ago this weekend I experienced a time of great anxiety and grief.  This is the anniversary of Heather's illness and a time of uncertainty and fear.  During her month in the hospital I felt more grief and shed more tears than I had at any time in my life.  The emotions were more unbearable than I can express to you in this blog.  But with these emotions also came relief, comfort and strength.  The ability to be real, and to be loved and supported by others in all my hurt and pain, offered me a glimpse of real and authentic love, more than I had ever known in my life.  

The world has created for us false expectations and ideals.  We believe to be real is to not be accepted.  To share and to connect is to be weak and needy.  However, the burden that comes with holding back who you are, and what you experience, is one that creates the additional burden of not being known, and not being loved authentically by those around you.  It is not easy, I know, but it is also a pathway to deeper, more intimate and rewarding relationships, and I believe God will bless you for being real to yourself and to those around you.  Plus, it gives others the opportunity and blessing of loving you.

Think about it:)

2 comments (Add your own)

1. Jennie wrote:
It's hard to believe it's been a year. So glad she's gotten healthier throughout the year. What a blessing you both are to me!!!

Fri, January 27, 2012 @ 10:32 AM

2. Fernanda wrote:
Glad to see you here, my wise finerds.It has been so wonderful to watch you get through this year. You have had great loss, yes, but you have gained so much. And in doing that, we all have seen the gift that you are.Love.

Mon, February 6, 2012 @ 3:02 PM

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